Are you a glass half empty or a glass half full person? Do you feel that life happens to you (stuck under the circumstances) or that you create life results by your actions (going forward: over, under, around, or through)? Do you see obstacles or opportunities? In this post, I want to share a few thoughts about staying positive regardless of how you are wired.
WHAT IS YOUR SPIRITUAL POWER SOURCE?
Humans are incredibly well-constructed but are imperfect by their very nature (we are always changing mentally, physically, and spiritually and – beyond a certain point even with the best nutrition and wellness care – we eventually start to become less and less vibrant). We are also prone to emotional overwhelm occasionally or even often. So, what is the key to accessing positivity no matter what is going on inside and around us? My answer: a Higher Power in the spiritual realm, not yourself or another human. I am a Christian, so for me that Higher Power is the Most High God of the Old and New Testaments. For you, it may be another power. I recommend that you consider whether your higher power is always good, always reliable, always loving. I have heard of powers that are strong but unpredictable or even vengeful toward their followers. As I wrote in a recent post, love overcomes all negativity. Seek love.
- It’s important to be completely confident in your higher power: know what your higher power asks you to be and do and know what your higher power does or doesn’t promise in return. Confidence heightens positivity, so find a higher power that invites complete confidence.
- It’s important to be in a relationship with your higher power: not simply to “know about” but to “know” that power intimately. Can you have a dialogue with your higher power and receive answers to your questions that, over time, give you fruitful guidance?
- It’s important that your higher power be known to cause good for you and for all of creation in this life and in eternity. Seek a higher power who encourages servant leadership rather than fear or selfishness.
WHAT ARE YOUR PERSONAL DISCIPLINES?
Mental – what kinds of images, sounds, and ideas do you feed your mind on a regular basis? Just like a physical diet, your mental diet will produce health or illness based on what it is fed. If you “consume” positive, uplifting, hopeful, creative, and constructive inputs, your mind will program itself to find MORE of those things to feed you as you walk through daily life (and will tend to de-prioritize attention to negative inputs). When you talk, your mind listens. Always. Your own voice is the most important director to your thoughts. While you sleep, your mind will process all the sensory inputs of the day and will interpret things in a positive or negative way, depending on the instructions you have given to it.
Physical – Do you move to the best of your ability every day? Do you eat fresh, whole, non-GMO and organic or naturally produced food? Do you drink several glasses of high-quality water every day? Do you keep your body clean and well tended? If you are lacking in one or more of these areas, you are sending your body a clear message that you don’t value it highly. Your body is the most complex “machine” you will ever encounter. What happens to a manmade machine if you don’t maintain it properly? The less healthy your body is, the more your digestion, emotions, immunity, and nervous system suffer. Your thinking gets foggy, and aches and pains increase. When you feel and think poorly, negativity naturally increases.
Spiritual – Do you take time apart from the hustle and bustle of daily life to be still and focus on the big issues of existence? Do you pray or meditate daily?
“…whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely. whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy – meditate on these things.” – Philippians 4:8
It is important to take at least 10-15 minutes at the beginning and end of each day to step away from the now and step into the big picture/eternal. I listen to a podcast every morning that takes me through the entire Bible in a year. I used to read through the Bible but reading books has gotten harder for me since my cataract surgery. The podcast I listen to has the text available if I want to follow along. At night, I spend 15-30 minutes in prayer right before I go to sleep. Humans need quiet time. I recommend that you not try to empty your mind, but rather that you use a structure and have a goal for your quiet time. Journaling is very helpful so that your “discoveries” can be revisited over time. Structure leads to discipline, and discipline leads to self-discovery and growth.
HOW DO YOU PROCESS THOUGHTS?
Do you control your thoughts, or do you simply let them come into your mind? You may believe that you have no control over the thoughts that come your mind, and you may never have considered how to control them once they have entered. I mentioned above that we can certainly control much of what goes into our minds by being selective of friends, media, activities, etc. But workplaces and other such environments can put us into contact with people and messaging that impact our thoughts in undesired ways.
What’s the best way to guard your mind and your positivity? The best way is to train yourself to pay attention to what your mind is saying to you. Think about your thinking, especially if you notice that your health or mood is suffering. When a new thought enters your mind, consider where it came from (your own mind or someone/something outside of you). Then roll it forward in your imagination: consider what would result if you allowed yourself to be guided by it. If you like both the source and the outcome, allow it to stay while continuing to monitor it over time. If you dislike or distrust either the source or the outcome or both, reject it and refuse to let it occupy space in your thinking. Remember the simple computer rule: Garbage In, Garbage Out. Make sure you are constantly keeping/taking the garbage out.
DO YOU CARE ABOUT THE OPINIONS OTHERS HAVE OF YOU?
Most people would say that it’s important to care what others think of you. I would respond that the only Persons whose opinions matter are the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. If you are thinking, speaking, and acting in ways that please God, good and positive people will be attracted to you. If you are confessing your shortcomings to Him daily and working diligently to improve on those shortcomings, you will certainly overcome negativity by focusing on Him and on serving those around you. What if you don’t believe in God? You will absolutely benefit from focusing on becoming what you believe is your best self regardless of what others around you think.
In any case, I recommend not caring about either praise or criticism from others. Neither beat yourself up nor think highly of yourself. Simply remain humble as you strive for personal excellence in whatever you do.
HOW CAN YOU BOOST ATTITUDE/MOOD QUICKLY?
My favorite quick and natural solution for negativity is the use of essential oils. These work best if you have already laid a great foundation with proper nutrition, adequate sleep, appropriate exercise, and a focus on minimizing stress. Pure, potent essential oils are a wonderful support to the physical body, and they are equally effective as a support to the emotions and to mood. Diffusion/inhaling is the best way to affect your internal emotional seat. So, if you don’t have one, get a simple diffuser (I’d be happy to discuss options) and change your mood and environment almost immediately. These oils can also be applied topically or taken internally in water. Below are a couple of examples of oils that can help you to overcome negativity:
Negative Habits: Zendocrine Detoxification Blend, DDR Prime Cellular Complex, Grapefruit, and Black Pepper
Self-sabotage: Slim & Sassy Metabolic Blend, Zendocrine Detoxification Blend, Blue Tansy, and Marjoram
Zendocrine is the oil blend of Vitality and Transition. It was designed to cleanse physical organs and systems and can have a similar effect on the emotions. It can assist in detoxing old habits and beliefs, quitting toxic relationships, and releasing physical and emotional toxins so that new energy and vitality is available. The oils in Zendocrine include Tangerine, Rosemary, Geranium, Juniper Berry, and Cilantro.
DDR Prime is the oil blend of Transformation. DDR Prime helps the body and emotions to release negativity (including unhealthy family patterns) and to return to balance, health, and authenticity. Using DDR Prime in combination with Zendocrine clears mind, body, and spirit and invites renewal and strong new energy and purpose. DDR Prime includes Frankincense, Wild Orange, Litsea, Thyme, Clove, Summer Savory, Niaouli, and Lemongrass.
Grapefruit is the oil of Honoring the Body. It supports true respect and appreciation of one’s own body. It helps to curb emotional eating and encourages love, tolerance, and acceptance of one’s body as it is. It helps individuals to listen to the needs of their bodies and to respect their physical needs. When we can honor our bodies, we can feel great – literally – in our own skin!
Black Pepper is the oil of Unmasking. It reveals the masks and facades that have been used to hide authentic aspects of the self. It also reignites a deep internal fire, fueling motivation and high energy, and hastens the emotional healing process. It gives individuals the strength to overcome the challenges and issues they carry inside and invites them to live in integrity with their true, deep selves.
Slim & Sassy Metabolic Blend is the oil blend of Inner Beauty. It supports the physical aspects of weight management and may also be used to address the emotional patterns that contribute to excessive or inadequate weight. It is a strong support to feelings of self-worth.
Blue Tansy is the oil of Inspired Action. It invites individuals to manifest their passions in actions, especially when there is a strong desire to retreat or self-sabotage. It demands personal mastery and purposeful action in achieving individual potential with a strong emphasis on choice and personal responsibility.
Marjoram is the oil of Connection. It helps those who are unable to trust others or to form meaningful relationships. Strong relationships are foundational to true love, confidence, and feelings of ease in social situations.
These suggestions just begin to explore how to create a lifestyle focused on overcoming negativity. If your glass is half full, they may be more than enough to get your creative juices flowing. If your glass is half empty, my hope is that they help you to concentrate on the fullness that is there and to believe that the rest of the glass can be filled to overflowing in time.
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